How Fragile We Are!

Straight AheadJust a few thoughts tonight about how fragile we are! Most men don't like to think about their vulnerability--physical and emotional; but I'm convinced that all of us, male and female, are very fragile. I'm also convinced that most of the "quick fixes" that people use to try to help us deal with our vulnerabilities are neither very effective nor very loving. After all, it takes time to show love, and most of us just don't think we have that kind of time--outside, perhaps, of our own immediate family. I'm reminded of all this because of pressures in my own life and the need to be truly present as a pastor and friend for those who are going through difficult times--even as I myself struggle with change and uncertainty. I'm also reminded of it because of people with whom I am in correspondence who have experienced the seeming indifference of those who were expected to extend concern and love. When a person is experiencing depression or grief or doubt or any other kind of emotional upheaval, they often are encouraged by well-meaning Christians simply to "pray harder," or have more faith." I remember when I was a child and would be going through a time of hurt feelings or rejection, that often an adult would say, "Well, just do something nice for somebody, and then you won't be thinking so much about yourself." While it's always a good idea to do something nice for somebody, that kind of dismissive approach hardly gets at the cause of most truly serious emotional pains. No, most of us need genuine love and concern when we hurt. Sometimes, the love of immediate family is enough; but sometimes, the worry and concern are brought about by family situations or health crises, or things that directly concern those we love the most. And besides, what about those people who have no close friends or family whose love they can really trust? How many people need to be hugged and held close, to know they have the freedom to cry, to have a hand on their shoulder, to be assured of someone's love and concern--rather than just a professional interest? Yes, the grace of God is sufficient. The presence of God and the assurance of His love is enough for any Christian; but that love is made manifest as another Christian reaches out and demonstrates the love of Christ--because all of us are fragile, vulnerable, weak. All of us are children who need a loving heavenly Father.